Monthly Archives: November 2014

Mums on Blogs…Monique van Tulder

November 28, 2014


  1. Who are you and what is the name of your blog?….My name is Monique van Tulder and I dispense advice on the good things in life at The Urban Mum; a Luxury Travel & Lifestyle blog (…for families that like to travel in style…).
  1. What is your blog about?…..I began writing under the guise of a Domestic Goddess; I basically ate my way through Nigella’s books; took pretty pictures, and offered up my take on being a Mum & Nutritionist. It was loads of fun and I had lots to say about Parenting – eventually though it wore thin, because as much as I love baking – I love travel more than my kitchen. Essentially I wanted to have someone cook for me…My professional career was in the Travel Industry: Airlines; Hotels; Destinations. I travelled (a lot) for twenty or so years for work. Now I travel for pleasure (and write about how to do it with kids in tow…a whole new ballgame…) I do love food so I sneak in a story about yummy things on occasion (these days it is usually reviews about good places to eat…)
  1. How old is your blog?…Nearly four years old – although I did take a mini-break last year while I focused on Travel Writing for various publications.
  1. What made you start blogging in the first place? ….I love writing…I have written three novels (unpublished and probably never to see the light of day…). With a blog it is brilliant to have your own space to fill with whatever lovelies float your boat. Editorial control is luxuriously self-indulgent; and if people respond to my words it is a fabulous bonus.
  1. What was your last big purchase?….Oh dear; I wonder if The Husband is reading this…I am a shocker; Summer wardrobe at Fleur Wood; prior to that a new handbag in Hong Kong (cost per wear it is a fantastic investment – I will continue saying that to myself for a while). Earlier in the year I visited India with girlfriends – let’s just say I now have enough textiles to last a lifetime. I don’t think Father Christmas needs to visit me this year…
  1. Any favourite online shops?….Book Depository; Susan Avery Florist & eBay (I know there are more thrilling online options – I just seem to find whatever I need on eBay…). Net-A-Porter for dreaming… 
  1. What’s the one thing you can’t go a day without?….Coffee and exercise – I am so much more pleasant having indulged in both. Oh and a cuddle from my boys; even the pre-pubescent 12 year old who now grunts instead of speaking…
  1. Ideal Saturday night?…. Thursday night is Date Night; by Saturday my energy levels are low, very, very low – I am only capable of holding a glass of wine while slumped in front of Breaking Bad (late to that party, loving it….).
  1. Do you have a particular style?….Monochrome – black, white, grey – classic. I like quality over quantity. I have some gorgeous Vintage Pieces that add a unique feel… For resort holidays I love lots of silk and bright colours.

10. Any advice for mums who might be stuck in a bit of a rut? ….Take some time out for yourself – as big as a holiday or as small as a walk around the block. If you are refreshed and your soul replenished; most other things in life; family; and business fall into place.

If you are in a style rut; get an amazing classic haircut then think about who your style icons might be (I love Jackie Onassis on holidays in the 1970’s; Emmanuelle Alt from French Vogue; and Sarah Harris from UK Vogue). You don’t need to shop big to emulate your style dream – just clever. Target, Seed and Country Road always have great pieces at good price points. If you have items in your wardrobe that don’t make you feel amazing – get rid of them.   It is a bit of a cliché – but the French women really do chic well.

You can follow Monique at The Urban Mum on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest

Why I do this…

November 26, 2014

Back in August I decided it was time for me to take the plunge and start my own blog. I had always been to scared to do it as I had and STILL have no idea what I am doing with a computer. Back in my day I was a hairdresser and the need for anything computer like was non existent. I failed computers miserably at high school because I was completely disinterested and didn’t want to know about it….There’s a lesson right there kiddies…. your ignorance will one day bite you in the bum.  It truly is laughable how little I know about technology and how I have managed thus far is amazing.  However, after losing a friend to a horrific battle with cancer, I decided this was not to be feared. It’s just me, well.. being me…. and thats how I started. I knew I could do this side of things. I love to have a chat and I knew if I could write down what’s going on in my head, I could make a decent article out of anything. Some people don’t agree with my thoughts and that’s fine… Each to their own. I am a smart arse and some people like it, some people don’t.  I have people who know me tell me all the time they can actually hear me saying what they are reading and I take this as a great compliment.

The reasons behind me wanting to do this blog  was to get some things off my chest that annoy me about life in general and also to share things that might be funny or useful or even just to sound off about how bloody frustrating this whole motherhood gig can be. I also want it to help in the normality of life. Cooking (usually sweet things… kind of says a lot about me!) socialising, balancing budgets, buying decent beauty products, finding awesome bargains for either the kids or us mums, anything that helps to save time…all the very normal yet necessary aspects of being a mum.

I make no secret that I have 3 girls and raising them is difficult to say the least not to mention expensive. I am hoping that once this little blog of mine takes off, I can perhaps work with some brands that I like and hopefully have some form of advertising from them. Kate from Drop Dead Gorgeous Daily  and Secret Bloggers Business who is a marketing entrepreneurial genius is offering a one year scholarship to one lucky blog to help get some things underway that I think are out of my realms of my understanding. I would love to have her expertise in areas of which are just too far out of my league.

My hopes for 2015 is to expand the blog and have it look as amazing as I know it can be. I need SBB scholarship to help me get to where I know I want to be. I also would love to have some contributors come on board and hand out their little tips for all sides of motherhood as well, whether that be in the form of travelling, health tips, even mealtimes being made easier. My blog will never be about the airy fairy side of being a mum…. It will always be real. I’m a straight shooter and I will always tell it like it is.

And that’s the end of the story.


BB cream for your hair!

November 24, 2014


Ok so for those of you who don’t know, in my pre stay at home mum days I was a hairdresser, so I am well equipped to be handing out advice regarding hair products. Schwarzkopf has released a BB cream for hair. Much like its skin counter part, its an all in one little potion for numerous things. Detangling, shine, volume, smoothing and anti-frizz…. you name it. I am usually a wee bit sceptical when it comes to things that say “all hair types” as quite often the case of what fits one does NOT fit all. However, in this case I was pleasantly surprised, as it has been given a workout between myself and my 3 girls all with very different hair types. Mine being highly coloured and whilst theres a bit of it, its pretty fine… My eldest who has extremely thick wavy hair (makes you sick really ), my middle who has hair as straight as sticks and my youngest who has ringlets… And yes, they all have the same father! So as far as saying it’s for all hair types I’m happy to report that they are indeed correct. This is great especially coming up to summer when hair does tend to become exposed to some pretty hefty elements. What I love most about this product is that you won’t need to remortgage your house to buy it as it comes in under a cool $11 from the supermarket. Yes, the supermarket.

Mango and banana frozen yoghurt

November 20, 2014


You know sometimes you come across cheap mangoes that are a wee bit past their prime sitting all sad and alone at the supermarket?… Pick them up and bring them home. You’ll be pleased you did. Say you pick up 2 mangoes… Cut them up and put them in the freezer for a few hours, along with 2 cut up bananas. Once they’re frozen put them in the blender along with 1 cup of greek yoghurt, blend until smooth and then transfer the mixture into a freezer proof container and freeze again for a few hours. Or if you like it where its still soft then pull it out ahead of time and away you go. Soooooo delicious, and the kiddies will love it!

Saturday night drinks.

November 15, 2014


Who doesn’t like the sound of a frozen strawberry margarita on a lazy Saturday arvo? Perfect right now as strawberries are cheap and the weather is perfect for it. Go on… you deserve it.

Head over to for the recipe.

Mums in Business… Emma Neil

November 14, 2014


1. Who are you and what is it that you do?….I am Emma Neil, owner and creator of MeManagement.

MeManagement is an online business providing simple stationery tools; a range designed to  make mental health and happiness a priority. The stationery will help you across key areas of everyday life that can affect your emotional well-being. Awareness of how goals, planning, food, sleep, exercise and emotional management can lead to you feeling happier. They are more than happiness or depression tools – it’s a lifestyle change.

Self-care is often low on the priority list for busy mums. Our stationery helps to bring a new   sense of control over creating a life you love.

The website is also loaded with feel-good ideas and tips. Lots of inspiration to keep your mojo strong and your smile bright.

2. How long have you had your business?.…MeManagement turned one on the 31st October this year. We launched our Blog-Discovering My Time about two months ago.

 3. What got you started? ….A number of years ago I was diagnosed with depression. After a huge denial and resistance phase, I made a solid decision to actively change my life for a happier outcome. With acceptance and decision made, my research began. I sought professional help and information from any and every source. The journey back from such a low place was the hardest I have ever undertaken. There was bad days, terrible days, and refusal to get out of bed days – then there was the occasional ok day, a better day and then good days started to roll.

It was during these days that I developed stationery based tools that I could use to help  monitor and motivate me to find feel-good activities and lifestyle.

I have never returned to those days of depression, though some days require a little more work than others. I know that I have to manage my own happiness each and every day. But it’s not just for me; it’s for those awesome people that are in my life like my son and husband.

As I listened to the women in my circles, I noticed how many of them were unhappy or even suffering from depression. Many feeling just like I did a few years ago. I realised that my experience was not uncommon and that there are lots of people just like me. This was my motivation to create MeManagement. It is because of my own experiences, and those close to me, that I feel I can share some of the tools that I came up with. The tools I have created are simple but will help motivate others to dedicate time each day to doing things that make them feel great. I use them now, not because I am feeling low, but because they make me feel so good.

4. What was your last big purchase?...A green Mimco tote I lurvvvvve!

5. When the kids are in bed and the washing is all sorted… What do you do?

Option A – Yoga session and a bit of blog writing.

Option B – Glass of wine and some serious TV watching.

Option C – Bed with a Book and Cup of tea.

Option D – Hours on Pinterest under the guise of research.

6. Are you a heels or flats kind of girl? …..Both. Flats are practical but a pair of killer heels can give you a new attitude.

7. Any favourite online shops? … and would be the favourites though I do most of my big brand shopping online these days to avoid the shops. I also grocery shop online which has been a huge time and budget saver.

8. Are you addicted to Pinterest?….Serial Pinning problem here.

9. What is your biggest seller?…..Normally our Weekly Planner. Magnetised for the fridge where the whole family will know it’s your MY TIME. Coming up to Christmas our Gift Packs are starting to get very popular.

10. Any advice for other mums who might be stuck in a rut?….Make a plan – you need to be in control of your happiness. Schedule time for yourself and the things you love. Become your own Actionable Happiness Advocate.






About me

November 12, 2014

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Here is where I tell you a little about myself. There’s not an awful lot of interesting things… just a load of honest rubbish.

  •  I am a stay at home mum to three girls who of course are the centre of my world. I am an ex hairdresser who, as much as I liked my job, could no longer listen to people’s shit any longer.
  • I have very little tolerance for most things, I say the word “fuck” far too often and I can’t stand bullshit.
  • I love good coffee but bad coffee makes my head want to explode.
  • I quite often start to read a book but then get bored by the middle and never find out the ending.. Unless of course it is made into a movie.
  • I hate putting away the washing more than anything else in the world.
  • I also love food. Pretty much anything.. I’ll eat it.

The purpose of this blog is for me to share things that I like with other mums in order to make our jobs a little easier/nicer. Whether that be reviews on certain products, helpful recipes,or even just where to grab a good coffee. Anything!

I’m also a bit of a smart arse by nature so you might often find me mouthing off about something or other.

If you would like to contact me email me at

Stop being an ungrateful little shit.

November 10, 2014


Firstly I will say that the following story is about my two eldest daughters and in no way includes my third. She’s off the hook…. this time. Secondly, I will say that all of this could very easily have appeared on fellow bloggers aprilahh FFS Friday. 

So, last Friday I decided to take my three to McDonalds after school with some friends for a quick snack and a catch up with my friends (their mums)… It wasn’t going to be a long time as Friday afternoons for us are hectic to say the least. So that would be nice for them right?? RIGHT????  You would think. I know that if my mum took me to Maccas after school just for no reason I would have been ecstatic. My delightful pair did nothing but whinge their arses off the whole time.

They were bought a caramel frappè each and they had to share (gasp.. thats right… SHARE!!!!) a large fries. Stupid really to think that an 11 and an 8 year old could actually share something right? So, after taking a phone call from my brother … over a dysfunctional family matter that is pissing me off… I return to my seat to discover one sitting there with a look of thunder on her face and the other even worse. They both complain because it wasn’t enough. They have both inhaled their frappè and demolished the fries in about 3 1/2 minutes. Then whinge rather loudly that it wasn’t enough and I should have bought more for them. It was a SNACK damiiittt, and  Miss 11 was going to play basketball in less than an hour so I didn’t want her filled to the brim before  she takes to the court.

After the constant fighting and bitching I decide enough is enough, stand up, grab my keys with the shits and demand they stand up and GET IN THE CAR!!!! Then Miss 4 who has been sitting there being a complete angel bursts into tears because we are leaving and she hasn’t finished her milkshake. I feel bad for her because it IS unfair that she be made leave when she hasn’t done anything wrong, but… thats the ways the cookie crumbles sometimes. Don’t blame me… blame your 2 sisters for being bitches!

My point to the story is…. I just wouldn’t have done that when I was a kid. Much like my article last Thursday about there being rules about school uniforms, where do these kids get off? It just baffles me at times because both my husband and I are quite tough on these kids regarding behaviour and manners and generally they are alright, but holy shit, it’s about the sense of entitlement these kids have. I don’t just mean my kids… I mean A LOT of kids.

If your kids don’t behave this way then congratulations, but I’m sure there are a lot of you who are nodding along with me. Not just about going places… just about nothing ever being good enough for them. Nothing is ever good enough. The money that gets spent on kids these days even just in regard to after school sports/activities is enough to support a third world village yet still there is this need for more. This expectation that they have infuriates me.

When we were kids, McDonalds was something special, play dates were for weekends and sleepovers at friends houses didn’t happen often. You didn’t just expect things. If you were bought something it might have been because you had been good or perhaps you had done well at something.. It wasn’t just because you were at the shops and mum should buy you something just because.

So kids, listen up… Your life is not so bad. Did you know that your iPad costs the equivalent of our entire Christmas presents for one year when we were your age? Did you know that there is no valid reason for an 8 year old to need an iPhone? Did you know that take out is a privilege and shouldn’t be expected just because you screw your nose up at what you don’t want for dinner?  Did you know that just because you lost your school jacket I shouldn’t be expected to buy you a new one and you just shrug your shoulders when you find out it costs 60 fucking dollars? (Ok, that last one was just at my child) but my point still remains..


I know I can’t be alone with this. I wonder what would happen if suddenly every parent just went back to how they were raised as a child? There would be kiddies on meltdown everywhere you looked, I would guarantee it. It certainly is a different world now isn’t it? For the better…………. I don’t think so. 

Mums on Blogs… Aleesha Price

November 7, 2014



1. Who are you and what is the name of your blog?…..My name is Aleesha and my blog is called Me and The Young.

2. What is your blog about?…..It’s all about #mumlyfe. From cooking to cleaning and cleaning and looking after my two babies, which is again, a lot of just… cleaning. It’s a window into my everyday.

3. What made you start blogging?….I mostly started blogging because I was stuck at home all the time waiting for naps to end. I was writing really looongg Facebook status updates and people started saying: you should write a blog. So I did. I also think that mums with little ones can really feel isolated, not just physically but emotionally as well, sometimes I just want to write. YOU’RE NOT ALONE! I GET IT!

4. What do you think is the best part of your blog?….The best part of my blog is that people tell me they read it and are like OH MY GOODNESS THAT HAPPENED TO ME TOO (and it sucked, but in hindsight it’s kinda funny too).

5. Do you have any favourite online shops?….I wish it was some classy online clothing store, but I’m a huge ebay addict and often get on tangents, and end up opening a parcel three weeks later with a single mushroom shaped cookie cutter that I have no recollection of paying 80c for; (true story).

6. What is your last big purchase?….We’re actually in the process of buying a block of land at the moment so I suppose that. Other purchasers however include a Nicer Dicer pro (another ebay tangent).

7. The washing is done and the kids are in bed…. What do you do?….My washing is never done. Ever. My washing basket is the equivalent of Mary Poppins’ handbag, so it’s not my fault. But I still do stuff. I enrolled in a creative writing course to do my Grad-Dip so at nights I might sit down and write for a while, or post on my blog… or watch TV with a bowl of ice-cream.

8. What is the one thing you can not live without? ….I feel like it’s so cliche but… coffee. I have learnt to live without sleep, but coffee… No way man.

9. What is your guilty pleasure?……This is a place of no judgment right? Ok, reality TV. I’m such a sucker, Big Brother, The Block, Biggest Loser, Masterchef, you name it. My friends know not to make plans with me on eviction night. How sad.

10. Any advice for mums who might be stuck in a bit of a rut?….Just get outside, go for a walk, a different way then you usually would. Something that works for me, is that I always try and have a goal, sometimes big – like writing a novel; sometimes small; like mopping the floors, but I feel like that gives me something to work towards, and if anything can pull you out of a rut, surely it’s a bit of motivation.

 You can follow Aleeshas blog Me and the Young on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest.




Remember when rules were rules.

November 6, 2014


Image courtesy of The Athletes Foot.

Image courtesy of The Athletes Foot.

Remember when we were in high school? Remember that we had rules to abide by? I’m not exactly sure where those rules went but they sure as hell aren’t enforced like they used to be.

One problem (amongst quite a few that I have) is the state of the uniform. Lets first take a look at what the actual word means… Uniform, (n) the distinctive clothing worn by members of the same organization. Therefore, I would take that to mean everyone is the same.. yes?

Well apparently for some, they think they are the exception to the rule, and I’m not completely sure why? More to the point… Parents??? Where are you? Do you not see your daughter walking out the door with what seems like 20 earrings in just one ear alone? Do you not see a face full of make up? Most of all….. Do you not see your daughters arse hanging out of her skirt?

I see girls coming home from the same high school that I attended (20 years ago… yes) and just think…. Holy shit… we would have been sent home if we looked like that.

It’s not just the girls obviously. We then have the lads who don’t want to tuck in their shirts as its too hot! This I have a real problem with because you know what fella?….. Sometimes… just sometimes… you are hot because you are blessed enough to live in a country where yes, it is hot. Thing is though, when you leave school the majority of the workplaces out there have to again wear a uniform. Are you then going to whinge like a little brat because you’re too hot? My husband every day goes to work wearing steel capped boots, woollen socks, long pants, a T-shirt underneath along sleeved Hi-Vis shirt, a hard hat and safety glasses regardless of the weather. It could be 10c or 45c… Same thing… Every day. No exceptions.

Or we could take it one further… What about our Diggers in the Middle East? Clothing of around 10kgs, backpack of at least 20 kgs, body armour of around 15kgs plus helmet and weaponry walking around in at least 40c.  So, you see fella…. you walking around from air conditioned classroom to air conditioned classroom complaining that you’re too hot to tuck your shirt in is utter bullshit. And really, If you are told to tuck in your shirt…. you tuck your shirt it. My eldest daughter who is only in primary school complained the other week because the Principal told her to do up her top button. She whinged and bitched that it’s too hot and she shouldn’t have to do it…. Obviously she got a mouthful back off me when I was made aware of it.  I was brought up to respect authority whether you liked it or not… you did what you were told. I would have been to bloody scared to argue back!

So, my rant is coming to an end… Some of you might agree, some of you might not… I don’t really care, but my point is that a rule is a rule and why have it in the first place if it is only going to bend if not break.

And fellas,……. Pull your frigin pants up!