Im confused about the way society is dealing with competitive sports. On one hand we have the non scoring sporting teams as to avoid disappointing the children (which is truly the biggest load of horse shit I’ve ever heard) and then on the other hand we have parents who turn into something quite extraordinary on the sidelines every weekend.
Where is the happy medium? We’ve all heard the reports of parents going batshit crazy at referees or even other parents of players, but I have to ask the question… whyyyy???? Are these parents trying to live vicariously through their children trying to recapture their own glory days? I mean… Isn’t it just children’s sport? Aren’t they meant to be having fun?
I have recently come across one parent sticking it to another child basically because he didn’t believe this kid was up to scratch. I wouldn’t think this was up to him, surely this is the decision of the coach. So what if this kid isn’t perfect…he is part of a team and should be encouraged not bellowed at by some dick on a power trip.
My eldest two girls are both involved in team sports and I love it. It teaches them how to work together, how to identify ones weaknesses and use each other’s strengths to benefit the whole team, not just themselves and basically how to get along with a group of people and function effectively regardless of victory or defeat. Also, it provides them with the opportunity to deal with that one kid….. You know that one kid? There is a fine art in learning how to deal with bitchy females… The sooner it’s learnt, the better. One of life’s lessons.
Which brings me back to the game with no scoring system. How the hell are kids meant to learn how to deal with disappointment? Sometimes life is not how you would like it to be… How do children accept things not going their way? Perhaps that’s why we now have a society of little snots blaming everyone else for their downfalls. Nothing is ever their fault because they haven’t learnt the ability to accept failure.
I don’t know, it’s obviously just my opinion and I most certainly not have all the answers but here are some things that I DO know..
Fact 1: YOU ARE NOT ALWAYS GOING TO WIN.. Enjoy it while you can… Yes you’ve worked hard and yes you deserve it but it won’t always happen.
Fact 2: YOU ARE NOT ALWAYS GOING TO LOSE... Disappointing yes.. Get over it, admit defeat graciously and try harder next time. Oh, and don’t be an arsehole about it, it just makes you look bitter. You lost… The sun will still come up in the morning and you WILL be okay. I promise.
And to the aggressive, bitter and abusive parents…. Calm the fuck down. They are kids. Kids that are meant to be having fun. Your kids learn by your example. The best thing you can teach your kids, apart from being kind to each other, is to be resilient. A little resilience through life will serve you well.